Sexplained Season 2, Episode 12: Sexual Shame and Guilt

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Fight, Flight or Freeze at Work?

In the season opener, Julia and Eveline Stallaart tackle the topic of workplace consent, boundaries, and the “freeze” response, providing insight into respecting and protecting personal limits.

8 min

2

STD's and Sexuality post-COVID

STDs: How Do You Get Them and Prevent Them? With sexologist Eveline, Julia covers STD basics, top trends in 2020, and how pandemic restrictions have influenced our sexual habits.

10 min

3

The 5 Stages of an Orgasm

Sexologist Eveline Stallaart guides Julia through the five stages of the sexual response cycle, demystifying the process and highlighting the importance of clear communication in intimate experiences.

10 min

4

Synchronise your climax!

Julia and Eveline discuss techniques for mutual satisfaction, breaking down the clitoris’ role and emphasizing communication as a pathway to shared pleasure.

8 min

5

How Tantric Are You?

Julia and tantra expert Mariëtte from Loverituals.nl introduce the basics of Tantra, exploring how the philosophy can enhance intimacy and connection in one’s life.

9 min

6

The 5 senses: Sight

Julia explores the visual aspects of sex with Marith, including the impact of eye contact and body language, as well as the pros and cons of visual stimulation through pornography.

8 min

7

The 5 senses: Hearing

Do you make noise during sex? Julia and Marith examine the role of sound and breathing in sexual satisfaction, discussing how vocal expression can deepen connection and enhance pleasure.

5 min

8

The 5 senses: Touch

Explore Your Erogenous Zones! Focusing on touch, Julia and Marith discuss the skin as the body’s largest organ, the health benefits of touch, and how to explore erogenous zones for enhanced intimacy.

8 min

9

The 5 senses: Smell

The Seduction of Scent. Julia and Marith explore pheromones and body odor’s role in attraction. Learn why scent might be more crucial in partner selection than we realize.

7 min

10

The 5 senses: Taste

With Marith Iedema and de Wilde Boerin, Julia delves into the role of taste in sexual arousal. Can flavors heighten intimacy? They discuss how foods can cross into the realm of sensuality.

8 min

11

Coming out... or Coming in?

Afiah Vijlbrief from Rutgers talks to Julia about gender, sexual orientation and the fluidity between sexual identities. The hurdles we face when experimenting, and why thinking in rigid categories limits our sexual potential. Afiah is a researcher at Rutgers expertise center for sexuality.

10 min

12

Sexual Shame and Guilt

Julia, Eveline Stallaart, and Dwight from the Make Love Work podcast unpack the roots of sexual shame, exploring self-compassion, boundaries, and self-acceptance.

12 min

13

Save your Libido during the Holidays!

Julia discusses how holiday stress impacts libido together with food pioneer Wilde Boerin and sexologist Eveline Stallaart. Who offer tips to keep desire alive even through the busiest seasons.

10 min

14

Sexual taboos

We must get rid of sexual taboos! In this special episode all of our Sexplained guests return to share the origins of sexual taboos and explore which misconceptions they believe should be dismantled.

10 min

15

Sex and Erotic Parties

Jorna Wierts of Big Little Secrets reveals what happens at her erotic parties. Julia explores sexual fantasies, encouraging viewers to rekindle their own desires with tips from EasyToys.

7 min

16

Let’s Talk About Sex… Work

Former sex worker Metje Blaak joins Julia to share her experiences and challenges, addressing stigma, misconceptions, and the evolution of sex work over time.

13 min

17

Non-Monogamy explained

Is Monogamy Natural? What Are the Alternatives? Are humans naturally monogamous? Julia speaks with Jorna about her open relationship and Dwight on his experience with polyamory. They share pros, cons, and fantasies surrounding non-monogamy.

13 min

18

Emancipate Your Prostate!

Anal stimulation might reduce prostate cancer risk, so why is it still taboo? Julia and Dwight explore prostate massages, including Dwight’s personal experiences, and discuss comfort and benefits of exploring this area.

8 min

19

The P of… Pegging

What’s pegging? Julia and Dwight dive into anal play, from hygiene tips with an anal douche to the intricacies of prostate stimulation. They answer questions about technique, comfort, and why some women have the urge to explore penetration.

8 min

20

The Spectrum of Asexuality

Julia Sinning explores asexuality with Afiah Vijlbrief from Rutgers, diving into the 5 types on the asexual spectrum. Together, they discuss the nature of asexuality, the role of sexual fantasies, and how asexual individuals experience intimacy and sexuality.

11 min